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  Mari Boyd, MA, LMFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Book Recommendations

Reading a book is not the same as marriage counseling, mental health therapy, or counseling teens. However, this list is a good overview of issues to understand in approaching the therapy environment. Reading these books may reveal dimensions of issues you never knew existed. They may also provide a glimpse into skills and changes that a trained therapist is equipped to help you learn.


The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

Gary Chapman


The 5 Love Languages® has transformed countless relationships. Its ideas are simple and conveyed with clarity and humor, making this book practical as it is personable. You’ll be inspired by real-life stories and encouraged by its commonsense approach. reading this book feels like taking a walk with a wise friend. Applying it will forever change your relationship. (from the author)


 

Healing for Damaged Emotions

David Seamands


"Healing for Damaged Emotions," first published in 1981 and since translated in 15 languages, has helped hundreds of thousands of readers worldwide deal honestly and successfully with their inner hurts. Through David Seamands' realistic, scriptural approach, you too can find healing and then become an agent of healing for fellow strugglers. (from the author)




Yes, Your Teen is Crazy! Loving Your Child Without Losing Your Mind

Michael Bradley


In Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy! psychologist Michael Bradley updates the rule book, giving you the insight, the hope, and the help you need to safely steer your teenage children through the stormy waters of adolescence. Explaining that you are the most important influence in your teenager's life, Dr. Bradley gives you the training and skills you need to transform your 21st century teen into a  strong, confident, productive adult.​ (from the author)

Get Out of My Life. But First Could You Take Me and Cheryl to the Mall?

Anthony Wolf


Dr. Anthony E. Wolf's widely acclaimed guide for parents of teenagers has achieved best selling word of mouth popularity with currently over 500,000 copies in print. It is widely regarded as the best book for parents of teenagers that has come out in many years. This is a survival guide for parents who find themselves marooned among volatile and incomprehensible aliens on Planet Teen. (from the author)


Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life

Richard Rohr


In Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life, Fr. Richard Rohr helps us to understand the tasks of the two halves of life and teaches us that those who have failed, or gone down, are the only ones who can really understand "up." Those who have somehow fallen, and fallen well, are the only ones who can grow spiritually and not misuse "up." What looks like falling down can largely be experienced as "falling upward!" (from the author)   



Seeking the Sacred: Transforming Our View of Ourselves

Stephanie Dowrick


The inclusiveness and depth of this book brings a much needed change in perspective to the highly contemporary religion debates. More powerfully and personally, if affirms each reader’s desires to live a life that is meaningful, connected, healing and rewarding. Stephanie Dowrick regards this as the book she has needed almost three decades of writing, thinking and spiritual exploration and practice to be ready to write. We believe it is also a book that countless people have been waiting to read. (from the author)




Love & War: Finding Your Way to Something Beautiful in Your Marriage

John Eldredge and Stasi Eldredge


With refreshing openness that will grab readers from the first page, the Eldredges candidly discuss their own marriage and the insights they've gained from the challenges they have faced. Each talks independently to the reader about what they've learned, giving their guidance personal immediacy and a balance between the male and female perspectives that has been absent from all previous books on this topic. Love & War shows couples how to fight for their love and happiness, calling on both men and women to step into the great adventure God has waiting for them together. (from the author)

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.


Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. The 20th anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to this groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix’s updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples’ daily interactions, allowing readers of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work. (from the author)


The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

John Gottman, Ph.D.


The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is an overview of the concepts, behaviors and skills that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. The principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Dr. Gottman has established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. This is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. (from the author)

Living and Loving After Betrayal

Steven Stosny, Ph.D.


Dr. Steven Stosny offers effective tools for healing, based on his highly successful CompassionPower program. You’ll learn practical strategies for overcoming betrayal-induced trauma and the chronic resentment and depression that result, using this innovative compassion-empowerment approach. Most books on betrayal only focus on the obvious issues, such as infidelity, abuse, or sex addiction. This book explores the effects of those kinds of betrayal, as well as less-talked-about types, such as emotional manipulation, dishonesty, deceit, and financial cheating. In addition, the book helps you regain a sense of trust in others so that you can eventually find another compassionate person to share your life with or, if you choose, to rebuild a relationship with your reformed betrayer. (from the author)